bbGirl: Jennifer T.Washington, DC I’m not a girl who enjoys being blatantly hit on in public places (and most women will tell you that they aren’t fans, either). However, initiating conversation is an essential piece of the dating pie. So I thought it would be helpful for you guys to know what to say and how to act when you notice a “lovely lady” on a night out on the town and would like to get to know her. Consider it a tutorial. Here goes: Wait until your “lovely lady” is alone. It puts a woman on the spot when a guy singles her out in front of her friends. Maybe she’s ordering a drink at the bar; go stand next to her and appear to be waiting for a drink as well. Then repeat after me: "Hi. My name is _____." (Your hand should be extended for a hand shake). See? How hard was that? This is the most under-used tactic out there, yet is also the easiest and most readily accepted. Ready for more? From here on in, make small talk, such as "Are you having a good time?" or "Is it a girl's night out?" or even "Wow, interesting crowd here, tonight." Chat should be non-threatening and friendly (read: not leering or über-suave). Offer to buy her drink for her. Now here's the tough part – say, "I'm hanging out over there. If you want to come and find me later, you seem great and I would love to talk more." Then walk away. You may be saying: "What? How is that going to work?", but allow me to explain. This gives her the chance to, 1) think about what a nice guy you are, and 2) allows her to step into the role of predator instead of feeling like prey. Trust me, if she is worth it, she will come talk to you.
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