BBGirl: January D.

Washington, DC

I am recently single and am cool with dating different people without strings or an agenda. One thing that I like is when a man’s actions match his words and vice versa. I recently ended a pseudo-relationship because “my man’s” actions clashed with his words. I enjoy meeting people and communicate easily without having to smother or be smothered. Yet I am also a romantic at heart, so genuine/unique displays of affection are not taken lightly.

Now as for my ex-relationship, it had all of the markings of an exclusive relationship: things were good between us chemistry-wise, we spent lots of time together and did everything as “a couple”--I mean I cooked for this man,  regularly.  His behavior, availability and long talks gave me very little hint to his indifference, but he “didn’t like labels” and kept saying he “wasn’t ready for a commitment.” I mean I can’t blame him for wanting to stick around, but, too late, after 2 years I gave him his walking papers and cut him loose. 

So, fellas please, say what you mean and mean what you say.  We can handle it better than you think, and we may even still respect you in the morning.