Just when you think the art of handwritten notes is dead, a question like this comes along. Thanks for the reminder, Tony.

Q: First, this is a great website. I was not taught these things by my father and pretty much had to learn on my own. 

In any event, do you always send thank you notes to the host of a party  that you have attended? Likewise, should a man have his own personal stationery and/or cards to send? I am married but am not sure if I should have my own stationary or should use the cards or stationery with both of our names on it. Your insight would be greatly appreciated. 

Tony

A: Tony,

Thanks for the compliment. We appreciate it.

As for the note, far too few people do this any more. In the age of email and cell phones, it's easier to dash off an email or text message. Still, writing a note of thanks on stationery is a good (if unnecessary) habit. The host will remember your kindness -- just another thing to distinquish you from the crowd. It should be simple -- two lines and a salutation -- and sincere.

If you think you might want stationery, you should get some. It's a worthwhile indulgence. I personally don't have my own stationery -- my wife does, as a gift for our wedding anniversary -- I tend to do a lot of my correspondence electronically, but use blank Crane's stationery for any handwritten personal correspondence. My wife and I have note cards with our names on them that we use for things like thanking someone for inviting us to a party or for a gift.

I hope this helps,

Brian